MY ANOSMATIC LIFE

Have you ever had a conversation with an anosmic? Do you keep forgetting that your family member and/or friend can’t smell? I previously posted 5 Things You Shouldn’t Say To An Anosmic. Here are more examples of what not to say and reminders to be mindful when speaking to someone who has anosmia because Anosmics do have feelings.

1. “If I had to lose a sense, I’d choose my sense of smell”

What it sounds like: “It doesn’t seem that bad to not have a sense of smell if I had to choose”

Since when was having anosmia a choice? Never. Shockingly, I’ve heard this during my first encounters and conversations about my blog. What’s most interesting is that it’s always said voluntarily. One person actually gave me a breakdown of their choice one sense at a time. It was absolutely dreadful to hear. We did not choose this invisible disability or life. Nobody chooses his/her/their disability. Please remember that.

2. “I wish I were you right now”

What it sounds like: “You’re so lucky to not be able to smell”

No, you really don’t. This is just another insult. If you did me wrong, I would never wish anosmia on you. I like(d) to smell, thank you. Regardless if something reeks, you do not wish you had anosmia. If you could trade places with an anosmic and realize the dangers and issues that come with it, there’s no way you would want to still switch.

3. “You can’t smell it, but…”

What it sounds like: “You’re most likely unable to imagine what I’m smelling, but I can’t help but share what I’m experiencing” 

The ending varies and usually goes “You can’t smell, but it smells so good…” or “You can’t smell, but it smells so bad.” Regardless, thanks for the not-so-friendly reminder. It’s totally unnecessary. Please just say something smells good or bad without referencing the person’s lack of smell and have a nice day.

4. “You’re missing out on this”

What it sounds like: “I don’t care that you can’t smell and want to remind you of this moment you’re missing out on”

Anosmics are well aware of what they’re missing out on. Again, we don’t need a reminder. I am not sorry that I was unable to have a smell moment with you but don’t throw it in my face. It’s rude. Have some empathy.

5. “I wish you could smell how good it smells right now”

What it sounds like: “It sucks that you can’t smell this with me” 

Personally, I detest tag-along trips to fragrance stores. You can just feel the comment coming in the air as soon as you’re near the entrance. No matter what you smell that an anosmic is unable to, it’s inappropriate to tell them this.

Unfortunately, there is a ton of forgetfulness, lack of mindfulness, and some disregard for our feelings (that’s what it feels like). Depression, anxiety, and helplessness a common problems with those living with anosmia. You can support your loved one or friend with anosmia by being more mindful, showing some regard and empathy, being careful what you say, and remembering that nobody chooses his/her/their disability.